By Brianna Wiest
1. What is the most liberating thought you’ve ever had?
“I think I should leave my Wall Street career and dedicate the rest of my life to spirituality.”
2. What did it liberate you from?
My biggest fears, my self-doubts, and my deep-rooted conditioning.
3. What does it mean to live a good life?
To love and forgive unconditionally.
4. What poem are you most proud of having written?
I believe we each write only one poem, and then we spend the rest of our lives rewriting it. Mine started when my spiritual journey began. I’m a reflection of my poetry. Hopefully, you will see glimpses of it in my work.
5. If you could go back and whisper in the ear of your 16-year-old self, what is the one thing you would tell them?
Keep consciously rebelling. You are not here to fulfill anyone’s expectations, and they are not here to fulfill yours.
6. What does love feel like? (Real love, not hormonal love or I-like-the-idea-of-you-so-I’m-on-a-high love).
Soft like the earth after the rain.
7. What does your daily routine look like?
It’s raw and ever changing. I’m pretty sure I will start to rot if I’m confined to a routine. Even after my death, I hope to find a new, improvised method of reincarnation.
8. What’s your favorite thing to look at?
Someone else’s eyes – they speak the unspoken.
9. Describe your perfect weekend.
It would be an uncertain and unpredictable series of love, forgiveness, poetry, and consciousness-raising.
10. What do you worry about the most?
The idea of worrying too much!
Worry is a misuse of the imagination. It depletes one’s creative force. It’s easy to fall into this trap.
12. What makes you cry?
It’s never one specific thing. There’s a beauty in that. Maybe it’s being around my grandma, writing and reading poetry, watching a movie, or witnessing one of my students have a breakthrough in their spiritual journey.
13. If you could choose one, what would you say is the best passage from your new book?
“The suppression of sex is not celibacy. The expansion of sex into higher consciousness is celibacy. If you feel you are not ready for it, don’t put on a pretentious show about elevating sex. Celibacy is also not fully practiced if you stay away from opposite sex physically but in your mind, you are undressing everything that moves. Doing these things will only misalign your chakras further.
As a celibate lover, live your desires so fully that you know the business of your every emotion. I recommend that you understand your inner self well. Get in touch with your sexual desires and emotional needs. Let your skin breathe when you want to, be playful with nature, and never repress your emotions. A meditation before or after the sexual act can help you experience higher states of consciousness. Before sex, a meditation relaxes you. During sex, a meditative mind helps you to experience the bliss moving and exchanging between partners. I recommend meditation after sex. You don’t have to sit straight and chant mantras. Simply lay on bed and watch your breathing and awareness moving through your body. In this state of vulnerability, meditation takes on a beautiful movement. It will bring you to a state of security and love. Of course, the popular norm is to sleep, take a shower, (or go home in certain cases). But if we have decided to go beyond the norms, meditation after sex is quite a powerful way to rewire our energies.”
14. What is the most serendipitous thing that has ever happened to you?
It’s a thing that’s been happening since I was a little kid in India and continues to happen in Los Angeles, New York, and around the world: Strangers will walk up to me and tell me to trust the spiritual path as my purpose. They have no clue who I am or what I do, but they continue to find me and offer me reassurance that I’m on the right path. There are days when I really need to hear this message, and the fact that people continue to appear and share their intuitive guidance with me is incredible. This used to utterly surprise me every time it happened, but now I am just grateful that divinity has my back!
15. How did your biggest struggles become the pathways to your greatest success?
My biggest struggle was trying to fit into society’s norms. I struggled with it as a child, as a student in school, and as a professional in the finance industry. I was trying so hard to be like how others wanted me to be. I didn’t have the courage to be myself. Meditation brought me closer to my truths and helped me overcome my struggles. Ultimately, being myself became my biggest strength. It will work for everyone reading this too!
16. Why do you think people have such a difficult time with writing?
We are programmed to suppress our truths. Writing brings out our vulnerable selves like nothing else can. When the words pour out, so does the fear, sadness, and dark truth. Sometimes that can seem like too much of a hurdle for people to overcome. Also, too many people focus too much on trying to write the next bestseller. I was one of those people. But the truth is, when you are you, great writing will flow. Just sit down and write.
17. What do you wish you had more of in your life?
Guidance and love for others.
18. What do you find to be the most genuinely beautiful thing in the world?
The fact that we can be born as ordinary beings and die as higher consciousnesses. As humans, we carry this magnificent possibility of transforming into a Buddha-like consciousness just from focusing on our awareness. That’s so beautiful!
19. If you could be free of one thought or fear, what would it be?
The fear of not being able to utilize my full potential as a healer, writer, and friend.
20. If you had the chance to tell every single person in the world just one thing, what would it be?
You are not on this earth by accident. You are here to fulfill a unique purpose. I can’t fulfill your purpose and you can’t fulfill mine. We are all here to bloom individually in harmony. Don’t worry about figuring out your exact purpose. Simply allow yourself to flow, trust the process, and surrender to the existence. It will work out well!
Chandresh Bhardwaj is a Meditation Teacher, 7th Generation Spiritual Advisor, speaker, and author of Break the Norms. Chandresh’s NEW meditation app is now available to help you relax your mind and body with free, guided meditations! Several new and powerful meditation tracks are added every month. Check it out here for Apple or iOS.