By Stevie Wilson
We all want to be remembered. But it doesn’t take a song or a statue to let people know that they matter and that they mean something to you. Here are four quick ways the people in your life let you know that you are important and appreciated.
1. “I saw this and thought of you.” Few things feel better to human beings than acknowledgement. While social media is usually portrayed as a tool for narcissism, it can also be used to appreciate others. The next time you see an acoustic cover from your friend’s favorite artist, share it on their Facebook wall. When you read an article titled, “6 ways to know your best friend is awesome,” tag your friend in the comments section. Text your friend a picture of a book they might like or outfit they might look great in. The main point is this: when you think of someone, let them know.
2. “Do you want anything?” Look, I know you’re not made of money or anything, but the next time you go to grab a coffee, ask the people you’re with if they want anything. If you’re able to, pay for it, too. You can do this in a setting without purchases, too. “Hey, I’m going to the fridge. Anybody want anything?” They might not need anything, but even asking shows the group that you’re here for you and here for them.
3. “I really thought about what you said.” Advice is tricky. Most of it give it freely and take it rarely. However, when you hear a good piece of advice, and you actually follow it, let the advice giver know. Despite what the internet may say, people love helping others. Acknowledging that someone helped you enables you to practice humility and gratefulness and inspires confidence in the one who helped you. It will also connect you to each other in a meaningful way.
4. “Yeah, I remember you said something about that.” You’ve heard people tell the same story a million times, or at least talk about the same thing more than once. We’ve been conditioned to think it is polite to disregard repetition. On the contrary, informing someone that you remember what they said from a previous conversation is a gift that will light them up from the inside out. To really bring it home, add on a question. “I remember you saying you loved that band! Did you end up getting tickets to their concert? How was it?” Try not to be distracted by their smile as you listen to them tell the next part of their story.
Image: Andrew Phillips