By Colleen George
I don’t know what it is that you are going through right now, or what it is that has you feeling stuck in the quick sand. Trapped in a cage. Uncertain of how to make a change. You’re not ready to move forward, but you can’t find a way to go back in time. Maybe the past is running through your head like a film on rerun… the pictures running in front of your eyes like a halfhearted dream.
That little part of you wants to run away, escape, take off and leave your worries behind. And the rest of you just wants to sleep… maybe for a few hours, or maybe for a few months. Or… maybe you just don’t have the energy left to even want to do anything at all. So many maybes and not enough certainties. Where is the pause button when you need it? Where is the option to just halt and breathe? You crave a big red stop sign to let you stop fully in your tracks; a time to regain your spirit, and some space to breathe before the pressure of the world comes pushing back down on you. But realistically, you know this doesn’t work. It’s not an option. So what do you do? You still must move forward. You have to.
As human beings, we have a tendency to let the negative drastically overcome the positive. When something goes wrong, we focus all of our energy on the bad and are consumed with negativity. This inevitably leads to the feeling of being trapped. When we are hurt or feel broken, suddenly we forget that only part of our life is broken. Not the whole. We forget that just because something is wrong, many things are still right. But really, a rough patch in life doesn’t mean a rough life, just as a bad day doesn’t mean a bad year. Whenever life gets bad, without fail, life always gets better, because everything is temporary. However this only holds true if you believe it will get better, and only if you give it the power to. This is where we often give up, or stop trying to make a change for the better. We think things will never look up, so we are too afraid to even try to make life look up. This is when moving forward takes willpower and self-love. It takes strength and bravery. You have to create this willpower in you to stop the sadness and negativity, and redirect your focus in accordance to what is going right.
You can never be stuck because earth keeps turning. Time keeps ticking. Energy keeps living. The universe glimmers on. The world never fails to continue on forward into the future. So don’t try to fight this and stop. Don’t keep yourself in quicksand. You can make changes and you can rekindle your spark. But to do this, you must keep moving forward.
If you just stay where you are, and try nothing new, the quicksand will just become stronger. But if you can find a tiny reason to grab onto something new, you will find that a change is exactly what you need to restart your heartbeat. It doesn’t need to be a big change. It doesn’t need to be a big step. It just needs to be something. Your only option is to keep moving forward because the thing is, if you do just stay here stuck, nothing is going to change… for better or for worse.
You have no idea what wonder and beauty lies ahead, so do not let what has happened in the past, what has brought you down, dim your lights. Even if it is life. Just LIFE overall. That big overwhelming thing we all know. If you want something beautiful back, just try one little baby step. Be open to what may come next in life, for life is a journey – it has mountains, it has hills, it has storms, it has rain, but it has shooting stars. It has fresh winter snows, it has love and laughter, wonder and delight. Do not dwell on the bad. Put one step forward – even if it is one baby step. You’re doing great, and you’re going to go far.
Go out there and walk right through the flames. Stumble into the mysterious depths. Go for what is terrifying – pursue what is magnificent! Maybe you’re feeling stuck in the past because you don’t know what you want. Or maybe you don’t know what you are capable of. Or, maybe you really just have no idea of what you want in life. That in itself is enough to make you want to just go in a hole hibernate. No matter what you’re feeling, it can be really hard to feel motivation to keep pushing forward – especially when you don’t know what you’re pushing for. But this is precisely the time that even a baby step can change your entire life. It can spark your energy and bring you back to life. It make take a while, but at least you will be moving forward. What do you honestly have to lose by at least attempting something? At least taking that risk? Even if you take a step forward and it feels like two steps back, so what? You start again. You refresh. You rethink. And you take this next step in a different direction. You have infinite possibilities ahead of you, so the odds are, you will find something that will be magnificent for you.
Don’t focus on what you left behind, what you lost, or what you gave up. Because these all happened specifically to launch you into something better. Stick it out, and I promise that you will end up somewhere wonderful. Pay attention to what you know you can have, rather than what you did have. We must always, without fail, move forward. Take that little step. What may seem like a terrifying little step could actually be the very beginning of a magical transformation. Just always remember, you have no idea what may be just out of sight. So whatever it is, start writing your new story, second by second, day by day. Maybe one chapter is over, but now it’s time for the rest of the story to play out. And really – who’s to say that a miracle is not waiting for you just around the corner?